Man and Woman on Spiritual Path
It is appropriate to discuss here the psychology of sex (gender).
To start with, what is the sex of God?
If one pictures Him as an old man sitting on a cloud and says: “This is your God-the-Father, worship Him!”, then, of course, He is of male sex, and He may even wear a beard. And a certain category of people of a certain evolutionary age will worship such an icon and believe that God is a man. This happened in Russia.
Jesus also called Him the Father, i.e. in the masculine gender. But it was according to the Judaic tradition where God is regarded as Father.
But in reality, He is equally Mother and Father. That is, He has no sex. For He is not a human but the Universal Primordial Consciousness.
And can spirits be of a certain sex?
Spirits have no body to which sex is peculiar, yet they retain the self-perception from the last incarnation until the next one. They may even retain the appearance habitual for them. “Among evil spirits there are both male and female ones,” wrote the Apostle Philip (The Gospel of Philip, 61).
However, in the next incarnation, the sex of the body may be different. What does it depend on? It depends on what qualities the soul has to develop or suppress in itself. Some qualities are easier to develop possessing a male body, others — a female body. It is the same with suppression of negative qualities.
The sex of the body is also related to sexual hormones (androgens, estrogens, progesterone, etc.), and this determines one’s awareness of belonging to a certain sex (it is defined by the level of androgens at the embryonic stage of the development). However, the most important thing for our topic now is that vigor and some other characteristics of an adult person directly depend on the level of sexual hormones.
This is why men — with their high level of androgens — usually live more intensively than women, striving to explore unknown realms, to study the unknown, to fight for their ideals, to dominate over the less vigorous part of society — women. And the fact that men are in majority in executive posts is not a wicked tradition, not an infringement of women’s rights, not an indication of the “inferiority” of the latter, but a natural process of distribution of social roles depending on one’s capabilities in particular kinds of activity.
But neither the amount of androgens nor sex has direct influence on the level of intellect.
A high level of androgens peculiar to a male incarnation is auspicious for developing vigor, research activity in science, including the science about God. This defines a natural striving of a mature man to become a leader, to guide people, to help them, to sacrifice oneself for their sake.
A typical woman is the opposite of such a man. She — grown in this life under the influence of female hormones — seeks peace, harmony, coziness, beauty. She wants to calm down the man too. She does not like the agitated, obstinate, ever striving somewhere man: this can fascinate…, but it is hard to stay with him in harmony and calm…
And for him the woman is short of vigor, he wants to shake her up…
A mature woman is happy to give to men her harmony, tenderness, beauty, wanting to help by “ennobling” them, bringing them closer to her ideal, sometimes by sacrificing herself… And mature and full-fledged men also are ready to lead women in order to teach them what they have learned… In this way, helping each other, teaching each other what he or she needs to learn, they can go together to the common Goal — to Perfection.
Jesus said, addressing men:
“Respect her, uphold her. In acting thus you will win her love… and will find favor in the sight of God!…
“In the same way, love your wives and respect them, for they will be mothers tomorrow, and each later on the ancestress of a race!
“Be lenient towards woman. Her love ennobles man, softens his hardened heart, tames the brute in him, and makes of him a lamb!
“The wife and the mother are the inappreciable treasures given unto you by God. They are the fairest ornaments of existence, and of them shall be born all the inhabitants of the world.
“Even as God… separated the light from the darkness and the land from the waters, woman possesses the divine faculty of separating in a man good intentions from evil thoughts.
“Therefore I say to you, after God your best thoughts should belong to the women and the wives, woman being for you the temple wherein you will obtain the most easily perfect happiness! Imbue yourselves in this temple with moral strength. Here you will forget your sorrows and your failures, and you will recover the lost energy necessary to enable you to help your neighbor!
“Do not expose her to humiliation. In acting thus you will humiliate yourselves and lose the sentiment of love, without which nothing exists here below!
“Protect your wife, in order that she may protect you and all your family. All that you do for your wife, your mother, for a widow or another woman in distress, you will have done unto your God!” (The Life of Saint Issa, 12:13-21).
Everything said in this chapter is related to sufficiently evolved men and women. Those who have not tried consciously to become better very often decide to “assert themselves” through arrogance, disdain towards the representatives of the opposite sex.
I can give the following illustration. … Once there was an old man and an old woman living in a communal flat. At his old age, the old man was of poor eyesight. Because of this, he urinated beside the pan. The old woman had to clean after him in the lavatory: she felt ashamed before their neighbors living in this flat. Once she lost her patience and begged him:
“Do it sitting on the pan! Then you will not pee beside it!”.
“To sit on the pan?! Like… a woman?!” the old man lost his breath because of shame and indignation, he nearly had a heart attack…
And he continued to urinate beside the pan until the end of his incarnation, but standing! — as a real man!
… The Apostle Paul infused the spirit of male arrogance into the New Testament: as we discussed above, he could not transform all of his aspects at once. For example, he wrote:
“Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. … I do not allow a woman to teach, or to exercise authority over a man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve…” (1 Tim 2:11-13).
“Let your women be silent in churches; for it is not permitted to them to speak, but to be in subjection… for it is a shame for a woman to speak in a church” (1 Cor 14:34-35).
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife…” (Eph 5:22)
“Judge among yourselves: is it right that a woman pray to God unveiled?” (1 Cor 11:13)
But the attitude of Jesus was different:
“Simon Peter said to them, ‘Make Mary leave us, for females don’t deserve the (True) Life!’ Jesus said, ‘Look, I will guide her to make her male!… For every female who makes herself male will enter the Kingdom of Heaven!’” (The Gospel of Thomas, 114).
A man going to Perfection has to supplement himself with femininity — the best qualities that the best women possess. A woman going to Perfection has to supplement herself with masculinity — the best qualities that the best men possess. As a result, both the man and the woman forget about the sex of their current bodies and become pure consciousnesses aspiring to Mergence with the Creator. “… When you make male and female into a single one, so that the male will not be male nor the female be female, then you will enter the Kingdom (of the Father)!” (The Gospel of Thomas, 22)